Long ago, time stood still. An indelible image. There were shepherds watching sheep. This is how the story the goes. And man surprised by where the road had taken him. Never in a million lives could he dreamed of Bethlehem. At least that is how the story goes. An ordinary girl pregnant with a child. An inn with no room. At least that is how the story goes. Angels singing peace in a night sky illuminated with the brightest star seen in centuries. And I don't know what the wise men saw in the sky. And it was all enough to drive a king mad and slaughter children. And the heartbeat sent straight from heaven was God's great plan for history. Emmanuel. God with us.
And I don't know if Mary knew her baby boy would save us. Did she know that her baby boy had come to make us new? Did Mary know what the incarnation meant? I don't know. We aren't told.
But how to allow the power of the Incarnation to penetrate our lives is the central question of Christmas. It really doesn't matter if shepherds were watching their flocks that night or not, or if angels really sang Glory to God in Highest, or if Jesus was born in a manger with hay or a cave. It really doesn't matter if wise men followed a star across the desert on the backs of camels. It matters not what we believe about the story. What matters is what are we doing with the story.
In a world torn apart by violence, poverty, greed and oppression, we wonder like the prophets, when will God come? And that is the miracle of the incarnation. It is when our lives are most barren, when possibilities are cruelly limited, and despair takes hold, when we most keenly feel the emptiness of life, and when we have used the last scrap of our resources, it is then that God is closest to us.
And so tonight, the longest night of the year, I know that tears are falling and hearts are breaking. I know that in the aftermath of last week, it is hard to believe in Bethlehem. It is hard to believe that God is with us.
And how we need to remember that God wore our fragile skin. And it was the shepherds and the wise men and Mary who believed in miracles before they made sense. And whatever happened in Bethlehem that night long ago is the answer to every tear we cry. That baby whom she called Emmanuel, is with us in our waking and in our sleeping. He is with us in our birthing and our dying. So tonight, I pray for peace to shine on a world that is torn apart. I pray for hope to restore our spirits when the hopers lose their way. I pray for faith to comfort and heal our wounded hearts. And I pray that we remember that in every act of kindness, every prayer whispered, every tear shed in solidarity, every hug given, every kind word spoken and every time you really listen and every time you slow down and see the holiness of the other in front of you, it is then that Christ is born.
May the peace of Advent find a place in your heart this Christmas.
Thursday, December 20, 2012
Wednesday, December 12, 2012
What a strange way to save the world
Full disclosure. I really go for that cup of coffee. And to eat that bun. And I always imagine how much better it would taste with a big slab of country ham on it. I also love the smell of beeswax. But for me, it really is all about the coffee.
I am talking about the Moravian Love feast. Unless, you are Moravian, or grew up in Winston-Salem or Bethlehem, (PA, not the West Bank), you probably are not familiar. And you may or may not know the history or significance of a Love feast.
The Moravian love feast is a service of song at which a simple meal is severed to the congregation. This meal, usually a bun and coffee, is an act of fellowship. It is not a sacrament, nor a substitute for Communion.
The Love feast, begun by the Moravians in 1727, is a revival of the Agape of the early Christian Church. The service spread with the church throughout the world, and remains an important part of Moravian religious ritual. A love feast is a service dedicated to agape, or Christian love, considered the greatest of virtues. A love feast seeks to remove social barriers and encourage reverence and respect for the legitimate rights of all people.
The largest love feast in the world is held every year in Wait Chapel on the campus of Wake Forest. If you have never been, put it on your bucket list.
The Christmas Love feast traditionally ends with a candlelight service. Beeswax candles trimmed in red tissue paper are passed out to represent Christ, the Light of The World.
To be honest, the professor who taught me the Moravian History would be quite disappointed that I have so simplistically described a love feast and my brother in law who is Moravian would have expected more as well. The service is rich with symbolism and laden with meaning. I suspect I have attended no less than 100 in my lifetime. Traditionally, my husband, son and I always attend the Christmas Eve Love feast at Kernersville Moravian Church.
I love the coffee. Moravian coffee is special and different. And to be even more honest, I would convert right now if they could promise me a cup of that coffee every Sunday morning. My brother in law is one of the coffee makers at his congregation. There is an art to it. And it really can't be replicated in your kitchen at home. Trust me, I have tried. I even own a set of Moravian coffee mugs. The music at a Christmas Love feast usually involves Moravian hymns as well as traditional Protestant carols. And at the end, Morning Star is always sung. A traditional Moravian Hymn that is only sung at the Christmas Love feast. And always, everyone in the congregation holds up a lighted candle trimmed in red to represent Christ the Light of the World. And always, I have taken the candle with me, until today.
So today I had to return the Light of the World. Today I only got to hold the Light of Christ in my hand for about five minutes or as long as it takes a Moravian ensemble to sing Morning Star and the pastor to bless us and send us forth in peace. And there she was taking up the Light of Christ in a basket. And it made me wonder had I known I was going to have to return the Light of the World, would I have held onto more tightly? And as I walked away stunned and wondering exactly what would I trim my scrapbook page representing 12.12.12 with now?
The hospital where I work celebrates three Love Feasts during Advent. There are a couple of reasons why I find that miraculous. First, given the age and times in which we live, and how polarizing religion can be, it amazes me that such a "Christian" celebration is allowed in such a "public" place. It certainly would be forbidden in our schools. And in such lean economic times, (yes I will be honest, I can think of better uses for the money), I am surprised it has survived budget cuts. But given my love for that coffee, I am glad it did. So, every year, for the past twenty years or so, I have attended and I have kept my candle. Until today. Today I had to give it back.
And so did he. I suspect if you have ever had your heart broken, ever felt grief, ever watched your world fall apart or ever had to say goodbye to the very thing or the very one who you thought meant the most, or ever felt the pain of abandonment, or ever suffered through the end of an important relationship, then I suspect you know a thing or two about returning light.
Joseph must have thought more than once that never in a million years would he have dreamed this was to be the way. Brown Bannister put those very thoughts to music.
It can be hard to walk in the dark. It can be difficult at best realize that you have to give the light up. And even if we could see the future and even if we knew when we might be called upon to give the light up, would it make us more present to the times when the Light is so bright? Would it cause us to hold onto the Light more tightly? No, I suspect not and that is how it should be.
And today, with a lump in my throat, and my eyes stinging with tears, (desperately trying not to ruin my makeup - I was at work after all), it occurred me that giving the Light back was the plan all along. It is a strange way to save the world. Only by being willing to lay the Light down, does the dawn ever come. Only by being willing to step into the dark of the night, will you ever see the next morning. And if we never, ever saw the dark...could we really ever know what the light could look like? If we never saw dark, would we ever know how to hope. I suspect not. Joseph was willing to give the Light back. He gave it back so the world could be saved. Strange isn't it? So holding tightly to the Light won't really save anyone (not even ourselves), holding on tightly to the Light won't make the room any brighter, holding on tightly to the Light won't cause the night not to fall, the only thing we gain by holding on tightly to the Light is that we are the only ones who can see.
So, never be afraid to give the Light back. It is the plan after all.
What a strange way to save the world.
All is grace,
moravian coffee
love feast buns
ham
beeswax candles
saying goodbye
endings
beginnings
light
dark
Moravian Stars
our traditions
carols
"What a strange way to save the world"
Christmas Cards
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bL6JfNjTHpg (skip the add, turn off the light and give the light back)
I am talking about the Moravian Love feast. Unless, you are Moravian, or grew up in Winston-Salem or Bethlehem, (PA, not the West Bank), you probably are not familiar. And you may or may not know the history or significance of a Love feast.
The Moravian love feast is a service of song at which a simple meal is severed to the congregation. This meal, usually a bun and coffee, is an act of fellowship. It is not a sacrament, nor a substitute for Communion.
The Love feast, begun by the Moravians in 1727, is a revival of the Agape of the early Christian Church. The service spread with the church throughout the world, and remains an important part of Moravian religious ritual. A love feast is a service dedicated to agape, or Christian love, considered the greatest of virtues. A love feast seeks to remove social barriers and encourage reverence and respect for the legitimate rights of all people.
The largest love feast in the world is held every year in Wait Chapel on the campus of Wake Forest. If you have never been, put it on your bucket list.
The Christmas Love feast traditionally ends with a candlelight service. Beeswax candles trimmed in red tissue paper are passed out to represent Christ, the Light of The World.
To be honest, the professor who taught me the Moravian History would be quite disappointed that I have so simplistically described a love feast and my brother in law who is Moravian would have expected more as well. The service is rich with symbolism and laden with meaning. I suspect I have attended no less than 100 in my lifetime. Traditionally, my husband, son and I always attend the Christmas Eve Love feast at Kernersville Moravian Church.
I love the coffee. Moravian coffee is special and different. And to be even more honest, I would convert right now if they could promise me a cup of that coffee every Sunday morning. My brother in law is one of the coffee makers at his congregation. There is an art to it. And it really can't be replicated in your kitchen at home. Trust me, I have tried. I even own a set of Moravian coffee mugs. The music at a Christmas Love feast usually involves Moravian hymns as well as traditional Protestant carols. And at the end, Morning Star is always sung. A traditional Moravian Hymn that is only sung at the Christmas Love feast. And always, everyone in the congregation holds up a lighted candle trimmed in red to represent Christ the Light of the World. And always, I have taken the candle with me, until today.
So today I had to return the Light of the World. Today I only got to hold the Light of Christ in my hand for about five minutes or as long as it takes a Moravian ensemble to sing Morning Star and the pastor to bless us and send us forth in peace. And there she was taking up the Light of Christ in a basket. And it made me wonder had I known I was going to have to return the Light of the World, would I have held onto more tightly? And as I walked away stunned and wondering exactly what would I trim my scrapbook page representing 12.12.12 with now?
The hospital where I work celebrates three Love Feasts during Advent. There are a couple of reasons why I find that miraculous. First, given the age and times in which we live, and how polarizing religion can be, it amazes me that such a "Christian" celebration is allowed in such a "public" place. It certainly would be forbidden in our schools. And in such lean economic times, (yes I will be honest, I can think of better uses for the money), I am surprised it has survived budget cuts. But given my love for that coffee, I am glad it did. So, every year, for the past twenty years or so, I have attended and I have kept my candle. Until today. Today I had to give it back.
And so did he. I suspect if you have ever had your heart broken, ever felt grief, ever watched your world fall apart or ever had to say goodbye to the very thing or the very one who you thought meant the most, or ever felt the pain of abandonment, or ever suffered through the end of an important relationship, then I suspect you know a thing or two about returning light.
Joseph must have thought more than once that never in a million years would he have dreamed this was to be the way. Brown Bannister put those very thoughts to music.
It can be hard to walk in the dark. It can be difficult at best realize that you have to give the light up. And even if we could see the future and even if we knew when we might be called upon to give the light up, would it make us more present to the times when the Light is so bright? Would it cause us to hold onto the Light more tightly? No, I suspect not and that is how it should be.
And today, with a lump in my throat, and my eyes stinging with tears, (desperately trying not to ruin my makeup - I was at work after all), it occurred me that giving the Light back was the plan all along. It is a strange way to save the world. Only by being willing to lay the Light down, does the dawn ever come. Only by being willing to step into the dark of the night, will you ever see the next morning. And if we never, ever saw the dark...could we really ever know what the light could look like? If we never saw dark, would we ever know how to hope. I suspect not. Joseph was willing to give the Light back. He gave it back so the world could be saved. Strange isn't it? So holding tightly to the Light won't really save anyone (not even ourselves), holding on tightly to the Light won't make the room any brighter, holding on tightly to the Light won't cause the night not to fall, the only thing we gain by holding on tightly to the Light is that we are the only ones who can see.
So, never be afraid to give the Light back. It is the plan after all.
What a strange way to save the world.
All is grace,
moravian coffee
love feast buns
ham
beeswax candles
saying goodbye
endings
beginnings
light
dark
Moravian Stars
our traditions
carols
"What a strange way to save the world"
Christmas Cards
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bL6JfNjTHpg (skip the add, turn off the light and give the light back)
Friday, December 7, 2012
What hope really looks like
Sometimes waiting is the only hope you can muster. Advent always makes me think of what could be and what is, more than any other season. Advent shows me more than any other time of the year just how cold, how lost, how barren, how broken, how hopeless our world can seem. I sometimes think that spiritually we are living in times parallel to those written about by the prophet Malachi. Malachi was the last the last prophet to speak before we ever hear John the Baptist preaching in the wilderness. Malachi ends by telling God's people to remember and believe. Malachi put down his pen and for the next 400 years God is silent. Not one word from God. No miracles. No prophets. Nothing but darkness. God did not utter as much as syllable. Those were some of the darkest days in Israel's history. Israel had never known such poverty, such powerlessness, such persecution. God quite simply ceased to speak. Malachi told them that despite the apparent hopelessness of the situation, despite the feeling of absolute powerlessness, despite the feeling of abandonment, they were never to forget God. They were to remember what God had done for them and to believe that God would not abandon and God would rescue them.
She said as much to me today and I didn't have a good answer. She said, "I don't know, I just think God doesn't hear me anymore. I just don't believe God listens or cares." I knew where she had been the last three months and I had I pretty good idea of what lay ahead of her. I knew where she had come from and she nor I knew where she might be going. But both of us could imagine. It appeared pretty hopeless. It appeared pretty dark. I don't have a good answer for suffering. Except that it exists. I have heard all the theological answers and to be honest they just don't hold much comfort for me. I suspect not for her either. And for whatever reason, Advent makes the darkness seem all the more real to me.
Many would tell me that is the point. And to some extent I agree, but I am fairly confident I would not have made a good Elizabeth, a good Mary and I am fairly confident that I would have ignored the prophet Malachi and chosen not to remember. Not to hope.
The harsh realities of the world that run parallel to twinkling lights, Christmas tree lots, packages tied up with bows, children laughing, the smell of cookies, the dancing reindeer and a jolly old elf dancing in a red suit can leave me in despair at times. Part of that is an occupational hazard, part of that is due to my introverted nature, part of that is due to my over exercised sensitivities and part is reality based. Poverty has always existed alongside wealth. Health and sickness have always walked side by side. Sorrow precedes joy. I just have never been able to ignore the truths that live alongside side wreaths and decked out halls.
It can be important to remember that the theological definition for hope is the willingness to live without closure, without resolution, and still be content and maybe even happy because we know that our source for life is beyond ourselves. The expectancy of Advent comes from knowing that Christ has come into our past. Christ has come into our own private dramas and struggles. Christ is present in the midst of our lives now. And Christ will come in our futures. Advent hope is not some perfect, selfish fantasy. Advent hope is seen in a baby born in a manager who grew up to suffer and die. Advent hope is not a pretty package. Advent hope reminds us that before angels sang songs of joy there was much sorrow. Before peace on earth there will be much conflict. Before you heal, you will hurt. Before the Light of the world there was great darkness. And before the Word became flesh and dwelt among us...remember God was silent.
She said as much to me today and I didn't have a good answer. She said, "I don't know, I just think God doesn't hear me anymore. I just don't believe God listens or cares." I knew where she had been the last three months and I had I pretty good idea of what lay ahead of her. I knew where she had come from and she nor I knew where she might be going. But both of us could imagine. It appeared pretty hopeless. It appeared pretty dark. I don't have a good answer for suffering. Except that it exists. I have heard all the theological answers and to be honest they just don't hold much comfort for me. I suspect not for her either. And for whatever reason, Advent makes the darkness seem all the more real to me.
Many would tell me that is the point. And to some extent I agree, but I am fairly confident I would not have made a good Elizabeth, a good Mary and I am fairly confident that I would have ignored the prophet Malachi and chosen not to remember. Not to hope.
The harsh realities of the world that run parallel to twinkling lights, Christmas tree lots, packages tied up with bows, children laughing, the smell of cookies, the dancing reindeer and a jolly old elf dancing in a red suit can leave me in despair at times. Part of that is an occupational hazard, part of that is due to my introverted nature, part of that is due to my over exercised sensitivities and part is reality based. Poverty has always existed alongside wealth. Health and sickness have always walked side by side. Sorrow precedes joy. I just have never been able to ignore the truths that live alongside side wreaths and decked out halls.
It can be important to remember that the theological definition for hope is the willingness to live without closure, without resolution, and still be content and maybe even happy because we know that our source for life is beyond ourselves. The expectancy of Advent comes from knowing that Christ has come into our past. Christ has come into our own private dramas and struggles. Christ is present in the midst of our lives now. And Christ will come in our futures. Advent hope is not some perfect, selfish fantasy. Advent hope is seen in a baby born in a manager who grew up to suffer and die. Advent hope is not a pretty package. Advent hope reminds us that before angels sang songs of joy there was much sorrow. Before peace on earth there will be much conflict. Before you heal, you will hurt. Before the Light of the world there was great darkness. And before the Word became flesh and dwelt among us...remember God was silent.
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Thursday, November 29, 2012
Grow old along with me
True story. I wish I could intelligently describe to anyone what it is exactly I do at work. I just can not just yet. I call it the confidence of the ignorant. Part of what I do, (I think), is I read medical records and listen and look and investigate and read between the lines as to what exactly is wrong with the patient and then I try to interpret that into ICD 9 coding language, (which BTW, apparently, physicians don't understand, much less me), and then ask questions of the physician to see if I can help them translate symptoms into diagnostic code. There are many barriers to this process. First, physicians chart in symptoms. Always have and probably always will. Second, to a nurse, this makes complete and utter sense. I see the symptom and in my head I can connect that to a diagnosis. And so to me the medical record makes perfect sense. But not in the coding world. So I am a translator of sorts. And I don't as of yet speak the language fluently.
Take today for instance. Doctors are getting younger and younger. Most residents can not remember a day when cell phones, Apple, google, the Internet did not exist. When they chart it looks as if they are tweeting. They use acronyms I have never seen. So yesterday, when I read on a chart, patient currently in ALF, I thought what is that? So I googled it. ALF can (and the operative word here is can), mean acute liver failure. Now, not only did the patient not have physical symptoms of liver failure, not only was that NOT why they were in the hospital in the first place, they didn't meet diagnostic criteria either. Fortunately, for me and you, diagnosing is outside my scope of practice. The Board of Nursing does not give me permission to diagnosis. However, part of my job is translating and I really did need to know if that was a current working diagnosis on the patient. I don't know what exactly told me to wait and see. It certainly wasn't my very, very limited working knowledge on liver failure. And it certainly wasn't my my stellar competence at my job. I think it was the voice of God. And I mean that in all sincerity. So, today, when I read the chart, guess what it said? (And I am so grateful I didn't call a doctor out of the OR to clarify ALF.) Patient currently resides in ALF, commonly known as assisted living facility. One word changed that whole chart. I can only imagine how I would have explained to a busy physician why I desperately needed to know the patient's living arrangements. I guess I could have said I was putting my Christmas card list together and just wanted to share the love.
That little story will probably only strike you as humorous if you happen to work in health care. But I am sure we all could tell tales of I am so embarrassed I might die. And I am so grateful that I have been a nurse long enough and have enough grey and white hair and have made enough errors and had my pride wounded enough that I can finally laugh at myself. There was a time when I couldn't have. There was a time when I never would have shared that story. It is good to age.
"Getting old is part of getting past whatever illusion we have about ourselves. It is part of getting free." -Rich Mullins
I know I am not quite over "myself" yet. I hope I am not so naive as to think that people have not spotted some conceit, arrogance or false pride in me. I know it is there and that I am not humble enough to squelch it or even clever enough to hide it. A person can overcome it though, through prayer and service. But no amount of praying or fasting or serving will ever hold a candle to aging. It is the beauty of living. If we live long enough, we get old.
I was awful at being young. As a teenager I carried around complexes, had crushes that thankfully never flourished, (although at the time I thought I needed them), and I wrote really bad poetry. I still write bad poetry. Age hasn't helped that. My twenties were turbulent and ended very quietly. Finally at thirty, I no longer had to be "young and foolish"- I wasn't old yet, but I wasn't young either. And God who is always good through whatever age had graced me with joy, peace and even prosperity.
I think I wasted my youth by being too eccentric and far too concerned about what others thought. And pride consumed a great deal of my young and middle adulthood. And thankfully, "God being good still, is doing what He has always done best and what I will never be able to do, and that is to undo what I have done".
I think I am just beginning to realize as I age gratefully into the end of middle adulthood, that God lets us all struggle and succeed. It is true we all don't struggle and succeed the same, be everyone does both to some degree. And when we have done enough to create a false sense of pride and security, God allows us to age. We do things slower and are less driven. I still can embarrass myself, but I won't die from it and finally realize I am far more likely to die from natural causes or disease. And finally, I am beginning to see the wisdom in aging- we begin to become free of self-doubt, illusions about ourselves, irrational thoughts, false security, misguided perceptions, displaced love. And as we grow older, we begin to see exactly how free we are. We grow free. Free to finally love as we are meant to love. Free to really laugh. And most of all free to forgive. So, let me grow old.
All is grace and growing old is a grace,
Kathleen
Take today for instance. Doctors are getting younger and younger. Most residents can not remember a day when cell phones, Apple, google, the Internet did not exist. When they chart it looks as if they are tweeting. They use acronyms I have never seen. So yesterday, when I read on a chart, patient currently in ALF, I thought what is that? So I googled it. ALF can (and the operative word here is can), mean acute liver failure. Now, not only did the patient not have physical symptoms of liver failure, not only was that NOT why they were in the hospital in the first place, they didn't meet diagnostic criteria either. Fortunately, for me and you, diagnosing is outside my scope of practice. The Board of Nursing does not give me permission to diagnosis. However, part of my job is translating and I really did need to know if that was a current working diagnosis on the patient. I don't know what exactly told me to wait and see. It certainly wasn't my very, very limited working knowledge on liver failure. And it certainly wasn't my my stellar competence at my job. I think it was the voice of God. And I mean that in all sincerity. So, today, when I read the chart, guess what it said? (And I am so grateful I didn't call a doctor out of the OR to clarify ALF.) Patient currently resides in ALF, commonly known as assisted living facility. One word changed that whole chart. I can only imagine how I would have explained to a busy physician why I desperately needed to know the patient's living arrangements. I guess I could have said I was putting my Christmas card list together and just wanted to share the love.
That little story will probably only strike you as humorous if you happen to work in health care. But I am sure we all could tell tales of I am so embarrassed I might die. And I am so grateful that I have been a nurse long enough and have enough grey and white hair and have made enough errors and had my pride wounded enough that I can finally laugh at myself. There was a time when I couldn't have. There was a time when I never would have shared that story. It is good to age.
"Getting old is part of getting past whatever illusion we have about ourselves. It is part of getting free." -Rich Mullins
I know I am not quite over "myself" yet. I hope I am not so naive as to think that people have not spotted some conceit, arrogance or false pride in me. I know it is there and that I am not humble enough to squelch it or even clever enough to hide it. A person can overcome it though, through prayer and service. But no amount of praying or fasting or serving will ever hold a candle to aging. It is the beauty of living. If we live long enough, we get old.
I was awful at being young. As a teenager I carried around complexes, had crushes that thankfully never flourished, (although at the time I thought I needed them), and I wrote really bad poetry. I still write bad poetry. Age hasn't helped that. My twenties were turbulent and ended very quietly. Finally at thirty, I no longer had to be "young and foolish"- I wasn't old yet, but I wasn't young either. And God who is always good through whatever age had graced me with joy, peace and even prosperity.
I think I wasted my youth by being too eccentric and far too concerned about what others thought. And pride consumed a great deal of my young and middle adulthood. And thankfully, "God being good still, is doing what He has always done best and what I will never be able to do, and that is to undo what I have done".
I think I am just beginning to realize as I age gratefully into the end of middle adulthood, that God lets us all struggle and succeed. It is true we all don't struggle and succeed the same, be everyone does both to some degree. And when we have done enough to create a false sense of pride and security, God allows us to age. We do things slower and are less driven. I still can embarrass myself, but I won't die from it and finally realize I am far more likely to die from natural causes or disease. And finally, I am beginning to see the wisdom in aging- we begin to become free of self-doubt, illusions about ourselves, irrational thoughts, false security, misguided perceptions, displaced love. And as we grow older, we begin to see exactly how free we are. We grow free. Free to finally love as we are meant to love. Free to really laugh. And most of all free to forgive. So, let me grow old.
All is grace and growing old is a grace,
Kathleen
Tuesday, November 27, 2012
Why eating at Krispy Kreme is good for your soul
Hot and now. Just thinking the words make me salivate and to have to drive past the sign when it is flashing- it is almost torture not to stop. And to be honest, I never have NOT seen the hot and now sign NOT flashing on Stratford Road. I could eat half a dozen, hot and now, Krispy Kreme doughnuts in one single sitting and still have coffee left over. Once on a dare, I dried to stuff three in my mouth all at one time to prove that they really do melt in your mouth. Um, they don't exactly and as I remember the story, I ended up with someone slapping me hard between the shoulder blades, and yelling, "Kathleen, are you ok? Can you breathe?" Now I love me some Krispy Kreme doughnuts, especially the hot and now. You can just feel the love. What says love better yeast, butter and sugar deep fried in oil and drizzled with icing. Talk about love in a box. Personally, I am also quite fond of the chocolate cream filled and Vance loves the lemon filled. Davis just the hot and now. None of us care too much for Dunken Doughnuts though. So about three times a week during rounds, someone brings love to us in a green, red and white box. Three dozen are gone before rounds are complete. One physician brings them every weekend he is on call and passes them out to his patients. It almost makes me want to get admitted. Almost.
When I was a little girl I loved to go to the Krispy Kreme store and watch the doughnuts being made. I would imagine how hot that oil was and in my mind it was hotter than the sun. I thought they brought the sugar straight from the cane fields in Jamaica. It was a very exotic place to me. Once, I got to back and actually see it up close, the doughnut machine. I was awed.
But the Krispy Kreme doughnut tells alot about ourselves and how we see things. There is a hole in the middle. Right in the middle where there could have been more dough to eat, there is part missing. The hole. Sometimes our hearts are like that. Missing a piece and I keep losing the keys and time and bits of my busy mind and it’s hard to keep company with Jesus when you are losing your sanctification over piles laundry in the floor and unmopped kitchen floor. I look at the hole my undone housework presents to me daily and I can forgot and lose Jesus by not thanking him for the house at all. That dirt reminds me that we live here, love here, laugh here and eat doughnuts here.
All of life is messy just like Krispy Kreme doughnuts and it presents us with grace over and over again. The kind of grace you want to lick right off your fingers. And the response to grace is gratitude. Grateful for it all, the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful, the messy, the joy, the sorrow, the pain, the release, it is all grace. Time to eat the doughnuts.
When I was a little girl I loved to go to the Krispy Kreme store and watch the doughnuts being made. I would imagine how hot that oil was and in my mind it was hotter than the sun. I thought they brought the sugar straight from the cane fields in Jamaica. It was a very exotic place to me. Once, I got to back and actually see it up close, the doughnut machine. I was awed.
But the Krispy Kreme doughnut tells alot about ourselves and how we see things. There is a hole in the middle. Right in the middle where there could have been more dough to eat, there is part missing. The hole. Sometimes our hearts are like that. Missing a piece and I keep losing the keys and time and bits of my busy mind and it’s hard to keep company with Jesus when you are losing your sanctification over piles laundry in the floor and unmopped kitchen floor. I look at the hole my undone housework presents to me daily and I can forgot and lose Jesus by not thanking him for the house at all. That dirt reminds me that we live here, love here, laugh here and eat doughnuts here.
All of life is messy just like Krispy Kreme doughnuts and it presents us with grace over and over again. The kind of grace you want to lick right off your fingers. And the response to grace is gratitude. Grateful for it all, the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful, the messy, the joy, the sorrow, the pain, the release, it is all grace. Time to eat the doughnuts.
Friday, November 23, 2012
It is all about the food
And I don’t know why I don’t make that more than once a year. My sausage and wild rice dressing. Davis finally decided this year he actually liked it. It might have had something to do with the fact that I will eat it cold out of the bowl as I am mixing it, or that it has rice in it, or that my brother has to have it a Thanksgiving. or perhaps it is just that good. To be truthful and not boastful, it is pretty darn good. It is the kind of dish that will make you want to stand up and slap your mamma. And what’s not to love: butter, wild rice, fresh bread crumbs, sausage and more sausage and more sausage, pecans, onions, celery, dried cherries. While it is not complicated to make, it is time consuming. And maybe that’s why I only make it once a year. The recipe has evolved over time. It started out as a recipe I copied years ago from an old Gourmet magazine. I have tweaked and added and taken away, and to be honest I probably never really make it the same way twice. I don’t have the recipe written down and probably should. I make it in the same bowl my grandmother, (my namesake), made her dressing in. I only use that bowl once a year. It is an old white Pyrex bowl with an aqua design on the side. They were produced in the 1950s. This year my sister in law about fell out of her chair when she learned exactly how much butter and how much cream I put in my mashed potatoes and you don't want to know.
I was sitting in rounds Wednesday morning when it occurred to me. The attending physician started rounds by asking – “So, what dishes does your family have to have at Thanksgiving? And how many generations old are the recipes?” At first the interns and residents thought it a trick question. It is an odd question to start morning rounds with. Most of the time the questions are more along the lines of, “Please tell the group the hallmark features of Wernike’s encephalopathy, the incidence, morbidity and mortality rates, as well as the treatment plan.” They just all kind of stared at the attending and held their collective breaths to see what it was he really meant. To be honest, on the day before a major holiday, when the hospital is full and staffing is skeletal at best, it was kind of a nice change of pace. I do have to admit, I was a little taken aback too. My initial thought was, “ I really am feeling the love right now, but we have a lot to do today, and maybe now isn’t the best time for sharing.”
There are things we only do once a year. And there are foods we only eat once a year. There are places we only go once a year. And there are people that we only see once a year. And that is what holds families together. Those thin places where past, present and future all stand side by side. Where joy and sorrow meet. Where we are grateful for each hand we hold and blessed that we are even able. Where we are grateful for what is understood, what is forgiven. And it is here that we learn that you end up loving because you gave. And it is here that you learn that time is precious and none of us know how much of it we even have and it seems like only yesterday we were doing the things we only do once a year.
Thursday, November 22, 2012
The Blessing
Happy Thanksgiving to all...
Every year at my house, we sing a hymn and say a blessing...it changes every year....This is the one for this year and to all my friends I give thanks. You are my greatest grace.
For daily food and drink, for home and family, and friends, those present now and those in spirit,
*We thank you Lord
For a mind to think, and a heart to love, and hands to serve,
*We thank you Lord
For health and strength to work, and leisure to play and rest,
*We thank you Lord
For the brave and courageous, who are patient and faith in suffering and adversity
*We thank you Lord
For all the vailiant seekers after truth, liberty and justice,
*We thank you Lord
For the communion of saints, in all times and places,
*We thank you Lord
In the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, who is now and evermore shall be. Amen.
*Adapted for The Divine Hours, Phyllis Tickle
All is grace,
Kathleen
Every year at my house, we sing a hymn and say a blessing...it changes every year....This is the one for this year and to all my friends I give thanks. You are my greatest grace.
Let us give thanks to God our Father for all gifts so freely bestowed on us
For the beauty and wonder of creation, in earth and sky and sea,
*We thank you Lord
For all the graciousness in the lives and men and women, revealing the image of Christ,
*We thank you LordFor daily food and drink, for home and family, and friends, those present now and those in spirit,
*We thank you Lord
For a mind to think, and a heart to love, and hands to serve,
*We thank you Lord
For health and strength to work, and leisure to play and rest,
*We thank you Lord
For the brave and courageous, who are patient and faith in suffering and adversity
*We thank you Lord
For all the vailiant seekers after truth, liberty and justice,
*We thank you Lord
For the communion of saints, in all times and places,
*We thank you Lord
In the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, who is now and evermore shall be. Amen.
*Adapted for The Divine Hours, Phyllis Tickle
All is grace,
Kathleen
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